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2020 Gift List for Grievers

Facing the holidays without your loved one is hard. Covid-19 makes it harder. Our inability to gather with friends and family, to receive hugs and kisses, is leaving too many of us feeling unmoored and alone. 

So, here’s what I’ve done:

I’ve created a holiday gift list for grievers and those who love them. What will you find below? Presents that demonstrate you understand this holiday season is unlike any other. And because self-care following loss is so important, I encourage you to put yourself on your holiday gift list, too. Please know I’ve personally curated the ten unique gift ideas, and I hope they’ll bring a measure of joy and meaning to your holiday season.

Here’s my 2020 Gift List for Grievers.

1. Family Recipe Card Set

With this special recipe card kit from Modern Heirloom Books, you’ll be able to preserve cherished recipes and the memories they hold. Unlike typical recipe cards, this collection comes with “Recipe for Remembering” pages with tips for recording your food-related memories and strategies for getting your family involved. Use the code ALLISON at checkout for 10% off the recipe card set. Valid through Jan 1, 2021.

2. Tembi Locke’s Self-Study Course

Tembi Locke launched her acting career on “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.” Fast forward to roles on “NCIS: LA” and the Netflix series, “Never Have I Ever,” and Tembi is making her mark on Hollywood. But it’s her e-course, inspired by the loss of her husband and her bestselling book, From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Finding Home, that earns her a coveted spot on this list. “From Scratch @ Home” is a feel-good course designed to help individuals heal through cooking. Use the code HOLIDAY15 at checkout for 15% off Tembi’s courses.

3. Photo Gifts That Go Beyond a Frame

Pictures spark memories and research shows feelings of nostalgia have the capacity to make us happier. These custom gift ideas from 365Canvas ensure friends and family will feel especially adored and special. Presents include everyday use items, including mugs, pillows, and cozy throw blankets. Get creative here!

4. The AfterGrief  by Hope Edelman

Hope Edelman is an inspiration to me and a trailblazer in the grief community. Her new book, The AfterGrief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss, guides readers in how to embrace life after loss with newfound understanding and compassion. Last week I had the pleasure of interviewing Hope about her new book. Register here to watch the recording of our conversation.

5. Passed and Present by me!

Ok, please forgive this self-indulgent plug. My book, Passed and Present, is a one-of-a-kind guide that reveals 85 imaginative ways to remember the family and friends you never want to forget. If you send me an email ( with the name of the recipient, along with proof of purchase, I’ll send you a FREE custom bookplate to place inside the front cover. Note: Due to cost of postage, this offer is only available within the United States.

6. Mini Course with Claire Bidwell Smith

Claire Bidwell Smith is a grief therapist, blogger, and author. She’s also the creator of a mini meditation and journaling e-course I just love. What I especially appreciate about this course is that it’s so very welcoming of beginners. No prior experience is necessary and all meditations are guided. All you have to do is grab your EarPods and listen. For 15% off Claire’s course, use the code GILBERT at checkout.

7. Make a Donation in the Name of Your Loved One

Scroll to the bottom of this page to the “Donate Now” button and add your loved one’s name to the digital remembrance wall. Your donation will help What’s Your Grief, a free platform focusing on grief education and expression, to continue providing essential services to anyone who has experienced a loss. I’m proud to know the co-founders, Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, and these two amazing women are the real deal.

8. BIPOC Course on a “Good Death”

“Shifting Deathcare: Tools for a New Paradigm” is a course created by five Black women. The program is designed for anyone who wants to gain a better understanding of the challenges all people face at the end of life and how to tackle them directly with love and compassion.

9. Objects and Heirlooms E-Course

Since we’re all spending so much time at home these days…please forgive this moment of timely self-promotion: In my new e-course, you’ll learn how to clear clutter while transforming sentimental objects into treasured heirlooms. Use the code LAUNCH30 when you purchase all 4 courses to get an extra $30 off already reduced launch pricing. This is a great gift for yourself or someone you love.

10. Digitize Memories with LegacyBox

LegacyBox makes digitizing photos, VHS tapes, film reels, audio tapes, and more super easy. All you have to do is gather up your items, place them in a box, and the magicians at LegacyBox do the rest. Pair with this bonus gift idea: For creative ways to get even more pleasure from photographs, check out my Photos & More e-course.

More Thoughtful Gift Ideas

Want additional ideas? Check out my previous posts about creating meaningful holiday moments here, here, and in the 2019 Gift List for Grievers, here.

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